Post by Mummy Admin on Jan 31, 2014 22:56:53 GMT
I like my future in-laws, well mainly my mother-in-law (MIL), but I really don't like them looking after my son. Is this weird? My father-in-law doesn't really do much but play with Crazy Baby (CB), so that's fine, but I really don't like my MIL's 'parenting' style. Admittedly, she hasn't been involved with a baby for 26 years so still doing things 80s style, but I just don't like the kind of negative things she says to my 13 month old son (and to me, about him).
She has also annoyed me because she keeps telling Mr Mummy (MM) that it's a mistake for CB to spend all his time with me because when he goes to nursery he won't want to let me go and we'll have real problems (this is what happened to her with MM). What she really means is that she wants me to leave him with her more often. My thoughts on this are a) CB really isn't a clingy baby and I actually don't think he ever will be. He's just not like that, and b) Even if this was to happen, surely it's my problem, not hers!!
I think the real trust problem started when we left him with them one day to go to the rugby. They needed to put him to bed at 7pm as we weren't getting back until 8pm so I left them clear written instructions on everything. When we got back I found that he was still awake. Basically, he hadn't drunk any of his milk (pretty sure they tried to give it to him cold) and that they had put his sleeping bag on back to front so he was half strangled as it was too high up at his neck. I warmed his milk and fed him, put his sleeping bag on properly and put him back to bed. He went straight to sleep. I just can't get over this, I don't know why. Is a sleeping bag really that difficult to operate? Another time that they watched him I went in to find they'd done up the top poppers but not actually zipped it up, so it was kind of caught up around his neck. I mean, these are intelligent people - she is a retired teacher - I just don't see how they can get it so wrong, argh!!
Ok, rant over. Do you think I'm over reacting?
She has also annoyed me because she keeps telling Mr Mummy (MM) that it's a mistake for CB to spend all his time with me because when he goes to nursery he won't want to let me go and we'll have real problems (this is what happened to her with MM). What she really means is that she wants me to leave him with her more often. My thoughts on this are a) CB really isn't a clingy baby and I actually don't think he ever will be. He's just not like that, and b) Even if this was to happen, surely it's my problem, not hers!!
I think the real trust problem started when we left him with them one day to go to the rugby. They needed to put him to bed at 7pm as we weren't getting back until 8pm so I left them clear written instructions on everything. When we got back I found that he was still awake. Basically, he hadn't drunk any of his milk (pretty sure they tried to give it to him cold) and that they had put his sleeping bag on back to front so he was half strangled as it was too high up at his neck. I warmed his milk and fed him, put his sleeping bag on properly and put him back to bed. He went straight to sleep. I just can't get over this, I don't know why. Is a sleeping bag really that difficult to operate? Another time that they watched him I went in to find they'd done up the top poppers but not actually zipped it up, so it was kind of caught up around his neck. I mean, these are intelligent people - she is a retired teacher - I just don't see how they can get it so wrong, argh!!
Ok, rant over. Do you think I'm over reacting?
